The Country Mentality

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Different Than the City

This is probably as obvious as anything else: in general, the people’s mentality in the Countryside is different than the people’s mentality in the City. Just to be clear and on the safe side: everything written in this post should not be seen as absolute. Meaning that what I write here is my personal experience from both living in big Cities and now living in the Canadian Countryside. Nothing more, nothing less. In addition, neither is better than the other. It’s just different. That’s all.

So where is the mentality different then? Lets make a list:

  • Family seems to be more important in the Countryside than in the big City. In big Cities people are more to themselves.
    More individualistic.
  • Supporting each other in times of need seems to be a key factor when you live outside the City. Think about doing shopping for each other, bringing a meal every now and then, or even just a plain old visit with a cup of coffee. In big Cities you’re much more on your own.
  • The further you go out of a big City, the slower times seems to tick. The City rush is a wonderful thing not to have in the Countryside.
  • The work mentality is very different in the here, compared to the bigger Cities. There seems to be much more of a moral obligation to come to work on time and do your best in the country. Not that City people are lazy. It’s just different.

Lets dig in a bit deeper on a few of the points mentioned above.

Sharing is Caring

This is probably the biggest difference I noticed when moving out here. At the time when I was living in Toronto, and later in Vancouver, I was much more alone. Meaning if I wanted some company, I had to make an effort to go out and find it. Here, where I live now, people drop by much more. Unannounced as well. This was something I had to get used to in the beginning, but I wouldn’t want to miss it now. In addition the person dropping by will bring me something. Either apples, soup they have made (people make lots of soup here) or whatever they think I need.

Typically when I just started living here, my neighbors (5 to 10 miles away from me) would come by bring me all kinds of food. Like I couldn’t cook for myself, or was starving. Neither of the two was true by the way.

The message is that people here share. And they expect you to do the same as well. It doesn’t matter really what you share (in terms of value I mean). It is just the fact that the community, although spread out in terms of space is much tighter knit together than in the City.

Slow, Slower, Slowest

Possibly the easiest to understand is this one. In the country the speed of living is a lot slower than in the City. Personally I find this a big plus. I sometimes see the occasional City dweller in our little town in our cafe, finger tapping waiting for the waitress to serve him a drink. My advice to City people is to as soon as they are in their car, to slow down. Not with their car, but mentally. Just… take… it… e…a…s…y… We all do it here. So why not blend in and enjoy the pace?

The Right Work Mentality

Working in the countryside is wonderful. My opinion. And on a more serious note, the work mentality is different here then in the City. There is more of an expectation from your employer that you do show up on time. Earlier is better. You work hard too. And there is nothing wrong with that.

On the flip side of hard work there is the “Sharing is Caring” bit again. Meaning that if you’re sick, or your child is sick, or you need to take care of your parents, you get much more freedom to do that here.

So in a way it cuts both ways. You work hard, and your employer takes good care of you.


  1.'Blossom47 says

    What you write is a good summation on the differences between the city life and the country life.

    I was born here in the country, and part of my family moved to the city.
    It’s amazing to see how stressed they all are.
    That is not necessary at all! But how do I tell them that?

    My grandchilderen are on their phones all the time. Even during dinner. How do I stop that?

    Anyway, I liked your article.
    Please write more.

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